Peer pressure has been a popular topic discussed ever since I could remember.
In school, counselors would come into our classrooms and give us lectures. At home, my parents would address the topic in various ways, on several different occasions to ensure that their only daughter be strong and capable enough to stand her ground.
The truth of the matter is that we all know better. We all know when we do things intentionally to impress others and be a part of the social scene, or when we simply want to, for our sake.
“Peer pressure is not always a bad thing. For example, positive peer pressure can be used to pressure bullies into acting better toward other kids. If enough kids get together, peers can pressure each other into doing what’s right!” (http://kidshealth.org/kid/feeling/friend/peer_pressure.html#, 1).
Though most of the time (and for the purpose of this blog post), peer pressure doesn’t just have a negative connotation, it refers to negative acts.
Whether it be drinking alcoholic beverages, consuming drugs or simply bungee jumping off a cliff, here are some tips that can help you abstain from doing things you are not into.
#1 Know exactly what peer pressure is and what it entails.
There is a difference between someone pushing you to do a certain thing and another for them to suggest you try or partake on what they are doing. Realize what situation you are in, and think about the consequences that can emerge as a result of the actions you may take.
#2 Respect yourself and others
If others choose to do something, no matter how harmful it may be (in which case, depending on its severity, you should seek professional help), there’s only so much you can do. They should be able to respect your choices just like you respect theirs.
#3 Surround yourself with good company
Distance yourself from those who push you around. It’s not healthy to get involved with individuals who do not support you and your beliefs/values. Don’t let others’ negative energy get in the way of you goals.
#4 What your friends like may not necessarily be what you like. Remember that.
#5 Never feel uncomfortable saying NO.
At the end of the day only you can make your own decisions. It’s your life, so take control .
#6 Stand up for yourself & stand your ground.
Never be ashamed for setting high standards for yourself. Let your friends/peers know exactly where you stand on an issue. Never feel intimidated, chances are, someone else in the group may feel the same as you but are too shy and intimidated to speak out.
#7 Recognize your worth and uniqueness.
Never feel insecure. Especially because of others. Stay confident and recognize that you are special. There’s a reason why the people you hang out with, hang out with you. They liked the initial you, so don’t feel the need to join in on everything they do just because you want to be a part of the scene or because you fear they will no longer like you (and if that’s the case, you might want to reevaluate who you surround yourself with).
#8 Identify your goals & limits.
Put yourself into perspective. Acknowledge what you more less want out of life, how you see yourself in say 10 years from now. You want to look back on your years and appreciate the moments you had, not regret them. Know your limits.
#9 Confide in people who truly care for your well-being.
As you travel this journey called life, you will come across different kinds of people. Some who are genuine, they care so much and no matter what, they’ll always be there for you. Others, may manipulate a situation and ultimately take advantage of you. Decipher the intentions people emit.
# 10 Be yourself!
As cliché as it sounds, be yourself.
Like Dr. Seuss once said, “There is no one alive who is Youer than You.”